Impossible Thing To Believe Before Breakfast #13:
A man's opinions on how to rear and/or raise a child are invalid
because he is not the child's mother. However, his financial obligation
is greater because no woman gets pregnant by herself.
It's hard to explain these things concisely because so many things are upside down in our society.
The problem is divorce has gone from a religious thing to a societal thing, so The State is now in control. Where The State intervenes in human affairs, it needs (presumably) to do so on the basis of Equality. Everyone has to be Equal before The Law. Which is not what we're doing. A baseball player's ex-wife is worth $3 million dollars, the clerk's ex-wife is worth $40K (or whatever).
What we are doing is incentivizing whoredom and whore-mongering: gold-digging by women and women-as-chattal by men. If, instead, we had a fixed settlement rate for EVERYONE based on jurisdiction (as a 24/7 wife and mother this is what it costs to keep you alive in this jurisdiction, so this is what you get in the event of divorce) we'd be removing those corruptions as a core reality in our society and getting back to something sensible: marrying for love, security, compatability.
If you only got the same "going-away presents" whether you were a baseball player's ex-wife or a clerk's wife, there would be no reason to have "going-away presents" as even an unconscious motivation in marrying and women would, I think, make better choices. It would also mean marriages would endure longer because being a GOOD wife would be more -- literally! -- rewarding than being an EX-wife.
Likewise if you only got "going-away presents" if you were a 24/7 wife and mother. Our concern as a society is -- or should be -- "providing for the provider" with 24/7 wives and mothers as the top priority. As distinct from "nanny enablers", part-time mother-hobbyists, the wives of househusbands, and "opposite sex roommates". Equal Before The Law suggests that everyone is expected to fend for him and/or her self. The State intervening in that should ALWAYS be exceptional and should ALWAYS be "blind justice". Anything else is institutionalized Inequality.